If It’s Meant For You It Will Come To You: Trust Life’s Timing

Sometimes rejection isn’t failure, it’s redirection.

Here’s a truth that’s both freeing and terrifying at the same time:

Anything you’ve ever had to force — love, friendships, jobs, opportunities — was never really yours. If it’s meant for you, it will come to you.

Read that again. Let it sit with you.

Because deep down, you already know.
You’ve felt the quiet exhaustion of trying to make something work when your heart wasn’t in it — or worse, when the other side never truly wanted you.

What’s meant for you doesn’t require you to twist yourself into knots.
It doesn’t demand that you beg, prove, or fight for scraps of validation.

Instead, it arrives with flow. It meets you halfway. It gives back the same energy you give it.

And when you feel that? You’ll wonder why you ever wasted so much time chasing things that were running away from you.

The Myth of Effort

We’ve been taught since childhood that “hard” equals “valuable.”

Love is supposed to be hard work.
Success must come with endless struggle.
If you’re suffering, it means you care enough.

But is that really true?

Think back for a moment:

Have you ever chased someone who clearly wasn’t into you? You kept trying harder, but the more you chased, the further they pulled away.
Have you stayed in a job that drained the life out of you? You told yourself, “If I just stick it out a little longer, it’ll get better.” But it never did.
Have you kept a friendship alive long past its expiry date, tiptoeing around someone’s fragile ego just to keep the peace?

That’s not a noble effort. That’s self-abandonment.

Here’s the difference most people miss:

A healthy effort feels like you’re building something.
Forced effort feels like you’re stopping it from collapsing.

One is growth. The other is fear disguised as commitment.

How to Tell the Difference

Life has a funny way of proving that if it’s meant for you it will come to you, no matter how many detours you take.

Life will always require effort. But not all effort is created equal.

Here’s how you can recognize alignment vs. force:

Alignment feels like flow. Even when it’s hard, it feels meaningful. It energizes you. You grow into it.
Force feels like resistance. It drains you. It makes you smaller. You betray yourself to hold it together.

Let’s break it down further:

Nurturing a relationship is effort.
But begging someone to love you? That’s force.
Facing challenges in your career is an effort.
But ignoring red flags and staying in a soul-sucking job? That’s force.
Showing resilience when life gets tough is an effort.
But draining yourself for something that’s rejecting you? That’s force.

The truth is simple: What’s meant for you will never require you to become someone you’re not.

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Why Letting Go Feels So Hard

If you know something isn’t for you, why do you still hold on?

Because empty space is scary.

We stay in relationships that hurt because being alone feels worse.
We keep jobs we hate because at least they’re familiar.
We cling to friendships that no longer fit because “we have history.”

But here’s the paradox: You can’t receive what’s meant for you if your hands are already full of things that aren’t.

Letting go isn’t a loss. It’s a clearing.
It’s creating room for what was always meant to find you.

Sometimes the only comfort in uncertain times is trusting that if it’s meant for you it will come to you.

Test It: Let Go, Just a Little

Here’s a simple test.

If you stopped forcing it, would it stay?

Think about it:

The relationship.
The career.
The opportunity you’re chasing.

If the answer is no, then you already have your answer.

Because what crumbles when you stop chasing was never stable in the first place.

And what’s truly for you? It will survive distance. It will survive silence. It will survive space.

It won’t disappear when you let go.
It will find a way to stay.

The Real Sign of What’s Meant for You

We chase so much, forgetting that if it’s meant for you it will come to you, effortlessly and naturally.

Here’s what nobody tells you:

If something is truly meant for you, it feels like home — not a battlefield.

You won’t have to beg.
You won’t have to prove.
You won’t have to lose yourself just to keep it.

What’s meant for you will choose you, too.

So trust. Let go. Make space.

And allow life to surprise you with what was always waiting for you.

My spiritual journey took me through many wisdom traditions. I found deep insights in “The Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle and “Big Magic” by Elizabeth Gilbert. You can see my full reading list for spiritual seekers on Amazon here.

Instead of forcing outcomes, I’ve learned that if it’s meant for you it will come to you — in its own timing.

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